When I look back on my high school days, I am reminded how much I have changed. I remember myself as a quiet, shy, self-conscious teen, who was never a part of what I considered to be the “in” crowd at the time. There was, and I suppose always will be, a few distinct groups in high school that typically hung together. There was the “Jocks”, the “High Honor Roll Brains”, the ” Druggies”, and the “Fine Arts” groups. I never really was a part of any of those groups, so my social involvement in high school was minimal.
Each group back then had preconceived ideas and opinions of the people in other groups that was based merely on assumptions rather than facts. Because the groups tended not to intermingle, there was never enough social interaction among people from other groups to make a justified factual assessment of others outside their group. Then there were people like myself, and I am sure there were many of us, that didn’t necessarily fit into any group. We just sort of floated along in our high school days, hoping to find somewhere that we would “connect” or fit in.
When I stop and think about all of these groups, one thought becomes clear to me. We were all isolating ourselves to a very small community of friends, and we were not really reaching out to the world around us. I guess there is a sense of safety in sticking with what is familiar. And when you were a shy, insecure teen like I was, the thought of attempting to get to know someone out side of the ” group” that you were in, with the possibility of rejection, was intimidating to say the least.
It’s funny looking back on those days now, and thinking how of how much I “stunted” my growth when it comes to social skills. The fear of not being accepted at the time, kept me in a prison of my own making. Now, fast forwarding over thirty years later, I have long since given up the idea that I need to be accepted by anyone other than God. I am still not a super outgoing person, or the “life of the party”, ( unlike my wife who is a charismatic social butterfly). But, I am no longer fearful of reaching out to people who would seem to be out of my “group”, or my comfort zone. I guess because many years ago, I woke up and smelled the coffee, and realized that we are really all the same. We all have our own hidden fears, doubts, struggles, and insecurities. And when it comes right down to it, we really do not need to have anyone’s approval, and we are all in this together.
Since my high school days, Facebook has been developed to help us reconnect with people from our past. It’s nice to have a second chance to interact with people that we for some reason or other never did interact with in high school. I suppose that since all of us have grown up and matured, we have come to the realization that we need each other, and that we are social beings with a need to help one another. We know we are all getting older, and we are all just trying to do our best to live the lives we hoped we would as kids.
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