One lesson I have learned that has contributed a great deal to my happiness in life is my realization that it is completely ridiculous and unnecessary to attempt to be anyone other than who I am. As basic and as simple as this may sound, we have all witnessed people in our lives who wear various masks in life, attempting to appear to be something other than what they are. I think at one time in my life, I was a person who was guilty of this. I am certain that my “mask collection” was started in an attempt to please everyone, and gain the approval of others. It wasn’t until I came to the place in my life that I was able to love myself, and feel a true sense of self worth, that I ceased to feel the need to gain everyone’s approval. Please forgive me if this sounds callous, but as I have grown older, my attitude has become ” If you choose to dislike me, take a number…I’m sure there is a line” As long as I know that I am gaining the approval of God, I can deal with a little rejection from others now and then.
Have you ever seen someone who is different depending on the crowd that they are with? People like this ( and I used to be one) typically have a low self-esteem, and feel that in order for people to like and appreciate them, they have to pattern themselves after the people whose approval they are seeking to gain..When people live their lives like this, they end up being “chameleon people.” As we all know, a chameleon is a type of lizard that has the ability to change color when it gets in different surroundings. A chameleon will normally do this as a means of self preservation. When the chameleon changes colors, it will blend in with the surroundings thus making it less visible to possible predators.
The ironic thing about it is that most people that are “chameleon people”, also change their true colors, so to speak, as a means of protecting themselves from possible harm. They feel like unless they can blend in and look like everyone else, they will be rejected and experience emotional hurts and pain. What a person that is trying to be something other than who they really are doesn’t realize, is that in doing so, they are putting on a mask that does not allow the world to see their true beauty. There may be a person who is looking for a friend that has certain qualities similar to those that are possessed by the person wearing the mask,but because the person wearing the mask is not showing their true self, the other person may never realize the true nature and inner qualities of that person. I often wonder how many great and meaningful friendships that could have been created never happened because the parties involved were never allowed to see the true nature of the other person. I have come to really appreciate people who are genuine and just “real” people. I love the ” What you see is what you get” kind of folks.
Perhaps you are in a place in your life where you are struggling with your self-esteem, and you feel that others will not accept the true version of who you are. In order for you to truly be able to love, you first have to be able to love yourself. If you are finding it difficult to love yourself, let me assure you that you have some great and wonderful qualities inside of yourself that you are overlooking. The Bible says that we were created in the image and likeness of God himself. If that is true, and I believe that it is, that tells me that God didn’t make junk when he made you. You don’t have to be reluctant to offer the true version of yourself to the world. Behind the mask that you may be wearing in an attempt to blend in, there is an amazing person with God given qualities that someone in the world is looking for. Don’t try to be like anyone else. I remember a quote from Dr. Seuss that said, ” Why fit in when you were born to stand out?” You can feel free to be who you are and what you are. There is someone in this world looking for a friend just like you, who is willing to be genuine. Relax, take off your mask, and never be afraid to let the world see the awesomeness of who you really are. Trust me….when you remove the mask you will feel free, and your life will never be the same.
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