Ever since the social media giant Facebook was birthed in 2005, the meaning of the word friend has become somewhat diluted and distorted. We can all pretty much agree that there is a distinct difference between an acquaintance and a friend. Some folks have Facebook friend lists that really take the misuse of the word friend to an entirely new level. I mean let’s be honest…who in life really has over one thousands friends? Think back before the days of Facebook. Back in those days, did you EVER have two hundred people wish you a Happy Birthday on your birthday?
Now don’t get me wrong. I appreciate everyone on my friend list that has chosen to include me as a friend. I have made the attempt to be extremely selective when it comes to choosing people I add as a friend on my Facebook list. I must be honest in telling you that since I have been on Facebook, I have deleted several (probably about 50) friends in an effort to be more realistic. Anyone of the people I have ever deleted off of my Facebook friend list were deleted for no other reason than the fact that I really barely knew them, and it was a far stretch to truly consider them a friend. Of course I know that there are people that delete folks off of their friend list simply because they get mad at them, and feel it is a way to “get even.” That is just plain stupid, not to mention very immature. Now that isn’t to say that the folks I deleted off my list weren’t great people. I am sure most of them were. Maybe I am being a little bit naïve in my thinking, but I would like to think that my “ friends” would be there for me any time I need them. I want the people I consider my true friends to know that if and when they need my help, I am there. My hopes are that the people on my friend list would feel the same way.
I am reminded of a Bible verse in Proverbs 17:17 that says, “A friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for adversity.” (New International Version) The New Living translation in the Bible says it even more plainly, where it says, “ A friend is always loyal, and a brother is born to help in time of need.” That tells me that friends are not meant to be in name only. Friends should be there for one another. They should be there when things are going good, as well as when things are not going so well. Walter Winchell was quoted as saying, “ A real friend is one who walks in when the rest of the world walks out.” In the past I have been guilty of making premature assessments of people, and have formed opinions about them much quicker than I should have. After truly getting to know some of the people that I initially had misjudged, I found them to be awesome people, many of whom I consider some of my best friends to this day. A very elementary and simple principle that I have learned in life is that if you want a friend, you have to BE a friend. Many people WANT friends, but don’t want to BE a friend. I am a strong believer in the biblical principal that you reap what you sow. What you put out there always has a way of coming back to you. I encourage everyone to not miss out on a potentially rewarding friendship just because of a preconceived idea of someone that may be wrong.
I sincerely hope and pray that anyone who may be reading this that may be on my Facebook friend list doesn’t misconstrue what I am saying. If I have offended anyone with any of my thoughts, I truly apologize, because that was not my intention at all. I am honored to have everyone that has accepted me as a friend on Facebook on my friend list. My whole point is that we should not forget what a friend really is, and we must not allow Facebook to dilute the meaning of the word friend, or forget that people are looking for something that is real. If you are going to be dubbed a friend, BE a friend. Albert Camus could not possibly have summed it up better when he said, “Don’t walk behind me; I may not lead. Don’t walk in front of me; I may not follow. Just walk beside me and be my friend.”
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