Are You a Thermometer or a Thermostat?

Have you ever had to deal with a person who’s moods are as unpredictable as the weather? People like that seem to spend their life being an emotional roller coaster. Probably just about everyone can think of person, whether they are a co-worker,friend, or family member, that fits this description. It can be a real challenge dealing with folks like this because you never know what to expect from them. One day you may see them, and they will be cheerful, pleasant, and a true delight to be around, and the next time you see them they are grumpy, depressed, and oozing with negativity and self-pity. All you have to do is spend a little time with a person like this on a day when their “roller coaster” is at the bottom of the hill, and you leave feeling emotionally drained and stressed out yourself! 

Thankfully, there are always a few people in our lives that are the complete opposite, and represent the other end of the spectrum. These are the awesome people that seem to be the same whenever or whenever you see them. Regardless of what is going on in their lives, these people seem to have the ability to take things in stride,remain even-keeled, and rarely let things get them frazzled. These people are often the charismatic, “life of the party” type people that completely change the atmosphere when they walk into a room. They are truly a delight to be around! Can you think of people in your life like this? 

I like to think of these two entirely different types of people as the “thermometer people”, and the ” thermostat people”. The people who are the ever changing, moody, and unstable people are the “thermometer people.” Just like a thermometer they are constantly changing depending on the situation around them. When things are going well, their “emotional mercury” reflects a comfortable climate and situation, but the moment that they get in a period of stress, and the heat is applied, their “emotional mercury” soars,and they are an emotional train wreck. They live their lives letting their circumstances determine their happiness and peace of mind. The “thermostat people” are the other folks who are the ones that are the delight to be around, and the ones that seem to bring life to a party and joy to everyone they come in contact with. These people are the game changers. Much like a thermostat, they improve the comfort level of their surroundings with their presence. Their upbeat personalities, positive attitudes, and consistent delightful demeanor always changes their surroundings for the better. 

So…the “thermometer people” live their lives at the mercy of the circumstances around them, and are emotional slaves to whatever is currently happening in their life at the time. The “thermostat people” dictate the conditions and the circumstances around them. They have the wisdom to realize that life is too short to spend precious moments stressed out and they continually make the choice to be happy. In doing so, they tend to spread cheer and happiness whenever and wherever they are present. It reminds me of a quote I read once that said, ” Some folks bring happiness wherever they go, others bring happiness whenever they go.”

I want to be the game changing, thermostat type of person who can make my piece of the world a better place. I want to live my life in a manner that demonstrates inner peace and happiness, so that just like a thermostat, I can change my surroundings for the better wherever I go.  I don’t know that I’ve accomplished that yet, but I’m working on it. What about you? Are you a thermometer or a thermostat? Whichever you are, it’s never too late to change! 

Thanks for Reading!

Until Next Time,

Mark

 

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