Drama doesn’t belong in your life
Drama is something that should only be experienced at the movie theater, on television, or on Broadway. It has no place in the life of someone who wants to live a fulfilled and happy life. Can you think of someone who always has personal drama playing out in their life? People saturated in personal drama are typically unhappy, restless, and unfulfilled. People that live life like that will suck the life out of you! You may be thinking of a few people in your life that fall into this category of “perpetual drama dwellers.” Maybe at times, this person has been you.
How do we avoid becoming a person whose life is buried in drama? If you were to ask 100 different people for their opinions on this subject, you would get nearly 100 different answers or pieces of advice. Perhaps there is no definitive RIGHT way to avoid becoming a “drama queen” (or king). There are habits you can incorporate into your life that will certainly help. I would like to share 5 things you can do right now that will help you avoid falling into the trap of making drama a part of your life.
Stop being concerned about what others think about you.
As a young man in my late teens and early twenties, I spent a great deal of time worrying what others thought about me. Staying concerned about what others thought about me kept me constantly stressed out. When I reached my late twenties, I had a light bulb moment. It occurred to me I was far more concerned about what others thought and not concerned enough about what GOD thought. I was living my life trying to win the approval of others, and it got exhausting. After getting fed up trying to win in that game, I said to myself, “As long as I am doing what is pleasing to God, I DON’T CARE what others think!
Regardless of how you live your life, there will always be people that will criticize you. Some people are very shallow and may think less of you if you don’t maintain the “appearances of success” that appeal to their materialistic natures. This is why countless numbers of people have fallen into financial ruins. Many people have amassed huge amounts of debt to buy things they can’t afford in an attempt to impress or gain the approval of others. Don’t let yourself fall into that trap! Follow your dreams and talk about starting that business you’ve always dreamed of. When you do, you may find many people will try to discourage you from your dream. People with no goals, dreams, or vision are unsuccessful, and they don’t want you to succeed either! Stop obsessing over what others think!
Learn to appreciate what you have.
Too many people fail to realize how blessed and fortunate they are. Folks all over America today are living with the mentality that says, “I’ll be happy when….” Many tend to make their happiness contingent upon certain things occurring in their life. They think if the thing they are hoping for happens, they will suddenly be happy. Until you DECIDE to be happy, you never will.
In the Bible in Philippians chapter 4 the Apostle Paul said, “Not that I was ever in need, for I have learned how to be content with whatever I have. I know how to live on almost nothing or with everything. I have learned the secret of living in every situation, whether it is with a full stomach or empty, with plenty or little. For I can do everything through Christ, who gives me strength.”
Many lottery winners are bankrupt within a few years. Did their windfall of money suddenly turn them into happy people? Perhaps for a short time it did. Regardless of what your situation is, you must decide to be happy! If you fail to do this, you will go through life always feeling like a victim of your circumstances. People with a victim mentality are chronic complainers, ungrateful, and pessimistic. Those folks make lousy friends! You don’t want to be around a person like that and don’t want to be one!
Don’t allow others to suck you into their drama party.
How much drama a person’s life has is largely determined by who they associate with. We have to choose to love some people at a distance. Not everyone is a person you want to do life with. Most people who always deal with some type of personal drama are negative and unhappy people. They want others to feel their pain. You can’t hang around the host of a drama party for very long. If you do, they’ll want you to help them decorate for the party and invite more guests! Don’t accept the invitation to the party. If you want to be a happy and upbeat kind of person, seek out people that exhibit those qualities! Learn from them and do the things that they do. Whatever you do, don’t allow the “drama dwellers” to have space in your head! Their way of thinking will get you all messed up!
Choose to focus on what is positive instead of what is broken.
It is important to focus on what you are thankful for. Everyone has problems they are facing in life. We all have situations that are not ideal. But, we can choose not to focus on the negative. If you focus too much on your problems and the things that you wish were different, you lose sight of the blessings you actually have. When this happens, it’s easy to develop a victim mentality.
You have heard the analogy of looking at the glass as either half empty or half full. I say, be thankful that you have a glass and that there is some water in it! Whatever your situation is now, know it won’t ALWAYS be the way it is now. Trials come and go. They don’t last forever. Set your focus on what is good and don’t dwell on what is broken. I like what the Apostle Paul said in Philippians 4:8. He said, “And now, dear brothers and sisters, one final thing. Fix your thoughts on what is true, and honorable, and right, and pure, and lovely, and admirable. Think about things that are excellent and worthy of praise.” Those are words to live by!
Let go of the past and what you cannot change.
Struggling to change what happened in the past will keep you imprisoned in a life of drama. Obviously, we can’t undo the past. All of us have had things happen in our past that have left us wounded and scarred. But, those things don’t have to define who we are. Trying to change the unchangeable, or fix things only God can change, will leave you emotionally exhausted. You will end up feeling like a failure.
Every day you wake up you have a brand new opportunity to improve your life! Your potential has nothing to do with what your life has been. You have to start from today! The only time you should look back is to see how far you’ve come. Forget the past. Maybe you experienced abuse as a child. Perhaps you went through an ugly divorce. You may have had unfortunate events in your life, but you’re still here. The question is, “Where do you go from here?” It is NEVER too late to start over and make the rest of your life the BEST of your life. You don’t have to live life as the prisoner of drama and the victim of your past.
Make the decision to make a difference
I hope some of these thoughts about keeping drama from infiltrating your life have made you think. I believe we can decide how happy, successful, and fulfilled we want to be. Personal drama continually playing out in a person’s life will always keep them from reaching their dreams. It will keep them from becoming the person God meant for them to be. People are waiting to be helped you. You can become a difference maker in the world around you. Let go of the drama and go make a difference.
Thanks for reading!
Until next time,